Sweetness can cause sickness. Praise is sweet, but too much of it can cause one to be sick. Criticism can be like a bitter pill or a painful injection: it is unpleasant surely, but it can do us good.
Don’t be afraid of honest criticism. Remember that no one can really be free from it, not even great people. Criticism is futile because it puts one on the defensive and usually provokes a defensive attitude. Criticism is dangerous because if wounds precious pride, hurts the sense of importance and arouse resentment. But there is a constructive side to criticism. We should listen to criticism, especially if it is constructive, and welcome the opportunity for self improvement. We should restrain our ego and not have hatred towards the critic. We must not be quick to label as our enemies those who do not share our views. Not all who criticize us are our enemies. Therefore, adopt a positive attitude and listen intently to the message of the criticism. Does it have a basis and is there something we can learn from it? We may discover a weakness in our self that we were not being able to see before.
On the other hand, we may come across some incorrigible people who are not affected by our good-well. We may try using peaceful methods and reason with them, but it will be in vain. In this case it is best to ignore them and let them go their own way. Even then we should not be angry or take revenge against them. Because by doing so, we will fall into the same pool of mud they are wallowing in. Getting involved in mud-slinging will make us no better then our enemy. We defile you in the process. Many people interfere with unnecessary things either to do something malicious or to pass uncalled for remarks. As a result of this negative attitude, they get into trouble.
At the same time, we should not be too critical or inquisitive about other people’s affairs and poke our nose where we are not wanted. There is an Eastern folk tale to illustrate this point.
(from- why worry)
(from- why worry)
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